We always pray this prayer “Lord, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things that I can, and the wisdom to know the difference”.
By the way, I love this prayer.
However, we get so caught up with only the first part “…help me to accept the things I cannot change…”. Whether it be relationships, attitudes from people, your friends, your inner circle, that is the part we pray the most. “Lord, help me to let it be…”.
But then there is a second part to it… “Lord, grant me the courage to change the things that I can”. Now that is heavy. Because we don’t have that. Courage. The courage to do what is necessary to better our life. Its like the saying ‘You may not be able to control what people do to you, but you have the control over how you react.’
This is the part that is most difficult. Finding that ability to react and ‘change’ the things that you can. Don’t like the way someone is treating you? Change your environment. Don’t like your current living/working condition? Start to go out looking. Don’t like the way your genetics built you? Change your eating/working out habits. But it’s all in that one word: COURAGE. Because in reality, it takes that. We get so used to being in our comfort zone, so much that we don’t realize how much we are really IN our comfort zone. A test to see if you can try/do something new? Go do it. For example. Being a southern girl, I grew up on hearty ‘southern’ meals like fried chicken, macaroni and cheese, greens, potato salad… list goes on and on. Until I tried to eat something different like sushi. The thought of it really grossed me out. Raw meat? No thanks! That is something that wasn’t appealing at all to me. Until I tried it. And guess what? It really wasn’t so bad! It took guts and courage, but at the end of the day, I experienced an entire new culture just by eating sushi!
Same principle goes with anything in life. You can’t change, unless you change. Does that make sense? Your situation will not change unless you change. You will not start slimming down unless your eating habits change. You will not experience true love until your dating habits change. You will not get a new woman, until you change your current woman! It’s so simple. But it takes that leap of faith, and the courage to change.
The reason why I wrote this particular blog was because I wrote a status on Facebook in this group I am in “I’m So Worth It”. And in it, I posted this note:
Ladies, I have to share my past experience with you. This year, I was dating a Christian guy. It was a big step for me because I was used to dating the rough type of guys. So it took some getting used to, but we were in a relationship. For so many reasons, the relationship ended, and I felt probably the worst I felt in a long time. I was thinking ‘the Christian brothers ain’t no good either!’ I was at a low point, and God made that situation a ‘NO’ for the obvious reasons. I was thinking ‘he’s going to want me back.. i did everything i could to save the relationship’. But it is that moment where you remember that you are WORTH so much more than what you are used to be treated like. Yes, I wanted him to apologize, try to work on us after we broke up, but God kept him away for a reason. And I am very happy about it. God said, ‘I have my BEST for you.’ And I am very comfortable with what God says. Once I started to pray ‘God, let me see in me what you see in me’, I started to truly realize how someone should treat me in the relationship. I pray the same prayer to you. Allow God to open up to you what He sees in you. Happy Day to all my sisters in Christ. ~ Amber
I had a RIGHT NOW choice to make at that moment last year when I got saved again. To continue on this path of heartbreak with the same dude or break that pattern and open my mind to something totally new. And when I did, it allowed me to receive my (current) boyfriend at the time. And looking back, I probably ignored the signs of ‘this ain’t it Amber’ but, nevertheless, the guy did teach me 1 important thing, and opened up my mind to ‘something new’. With that, the old guys and rough necks, I am not longer attracted to, AT ALL. So It was a blessing to see myself growing from that particular guy. And now I am open to only dating this ‘new’ type of guy… the loving, compassionate, caring MAN. So I thank God for him opening my eyes to see this man, so He can in turn send me His BEST.
I can’t tell you that you will not go through an uncomfortable stage when you truly open up to change. If you want to lose weight, it’s going to take some sacrifices. Changing your meals. The discipline in eating when you are supposed to with no snacks in between. However, the results you want from it, will come.
Just thought I would share this with you guys.